When I was growing up we didn’t celebrate Matariki / the Māori New Year.
I don’t ever recall my parents or grandparents talking about the stars or planting or anything remotely related to Matariki.
But I did observe the planning and preparation they did, especially my father, around kai.
Although we lived in an urban area, my parents made full use of our ¼ acre section and we had fruit trees, veggie gardens and even chickens in our backyard.
Things were different back then.
My parents were down-to-earth people and with 8 tamariki they had to be.
It wasn’t until I was working in Wellington that celebrating Matariki became a “thing”.
In fact, many of the roles I held, it was often my (or the team I was in) responsibility to organise a Matariki event for our non-Māori colleagues.
And I used to get hōhā with it with all.
I thought it was a gesture of tokenism when the organisation’s policies, practices, and systems more often than not, did not...
I’m writing to you from home surrounded by papers and a long "To-do" list.
I've got a number of projects on the go and a million and one things to do .... all due yesterday ... fun stuff! :)
Part of the work I do is identifying and codifying the traits that distinguish the most successful wāhine toa.
In my research on wāhine Māori leaders, I discovered a number of distinguishing attributes that set them apart.
Want to know one distinguishing attribute of these wāhine toa?
They stay calm.
Cultivating the discipline to CALM DOWN when life throws out the inevitable curveballs is a fundamental success strategy.
In fact, when I consider the coaching I do with my clients who fit in the “emerging leader” category, a large portion of the work we do is focused on staying calm.
Makes sense, right?
When you’re panicked, your ability to focus and execute is severely compromised.
This week I wish for you, and upon, you the gift of remaining calm.
Do you engage in daily battles with yourself?
Do you ever attempt to negotiate (with yourself) about commitments you’ve made or things you promised yourself you’d do?
This morning I told myself I’d go for a run. But when it came time to actually do it, my brain piped up with all sorts of excuses about why I shouldn’t go.
I don’t feel like it.
It's cold outside.
I didn’t get much sleep last night.
I work out plenty as it is ....what's one day?
All true. But I’d given myself MY WORD that I’d go for a run. And so I went.
I call this concept “No Matter What.” It’s a deeply influential practice of honouring your commitments to yourself….no matter what.
The irony is that the more successful you become, the easier it is to get so caught up in your commitments to other people that you fail to honour the commitments you make to yourself.
And when you fail to honour the commitments you make to yourself, you give your...
Are you on track?
Have you been making the progress you wanted to be making?
Have you achieved what you want so far?
I find that it’s so easy to get caught up in day-to-day activities – you start off the year with your goals written out and with the best intentions of reaching them, but then life gets in the way!
All of a sudden 5 months have flown by and you’ve not made the progress you wanted to make.
You’ve stopped reviewing your goals, let alone writing new ones!
So, now is the perfect time to take a step back and reflect on what’s happened so far, address potential blocks and problems that have held you back, set new goals and map out the rest of the year!
The team and I are getting together tomorrow, for the next couple of days, to do exactly this!
At the beginning of the year it was just me but now with Sarah and Vanessa on board, it's a great time to take a step back from the business to reflect, review and plan for the rest of the year...
Here is a recording of my opening korero at the first iWahine Leadership Hui 2017: E Tu Wahine. It was recorded after the hui in response to several requests from participants and followers. I would love to hear your comments.
I'm thrilled to introduce Kiri Tahana as one of our many fabulous speakers at the iWahine Leadership Hui on 25-26 October 2017, at the CQ Hotel, Cuba Street, Wellington.
Kiri's session is titled “Maori International” after a painting by Robyn Kahukiwa that she received as a graduation present. The painting depicts a Maori woman observing the USA political landscape and noting the absence of indigenous peoples.
Kiri will discuss the benefits and opportunities of working internationally as a Maori woman. The discussion will consider how working internationally may help with the ongoing mahi in Aotearoa to improve the lives of Maori. She will share her international experiences and the experiences of other Maori women still working abroad. Kiri's experience includes 15 years living and working as a lawyer in Australia, the United Kingdom and the United Arab Emirates (Dubai) and travelling through Africa, parts of the Middle East, Europe and the United States.
Kiri is Special...
I'm super excited to announce that Raina Ferris is our key note speaker together with her daughter Piri Gailbraith.
They run the Kurawaka Retreat in Porangahau and also hold a number of Karanga Workshops around Aotearoa.
Raina and Piri will start both days of our hui.
DAY ONE Ngā Atua Wahine: The Goddess is Me!
Raina will present the Maori World View, from Te Kore through to the first human, Hineahuone. She will introduce you to some of the Atua Wahine who are in our Maori pantheon and identify their existence in you as a Wahine Maori. Discover the Goddess Within.
DAY TWO Karanga Workshop.
Piri is passionate about karanga and empowering our wahine to take control of their destiny and to take on the responsibility of upholding the pae Karanga on our marae throughout Aotearoa.
I don't know about you but I'm so looking forward to being nourished and uplifted, and tapping into my feminine power.
Don't miss out on the...
Whakarongo ki tenei hotaka e pa ana ki te Mana Wahine, me kii 'He orange ngakau he pikinga wairua'. This month's korero is about leadership and being clear about what it is, and it being in alignment with your purpose. It's also about encouraging others to walk their own path and share their truth.
Aue! I was supposed to be talking about whakawhanaungatanga starting with yourself.
In my view you need to know yourself, accept yourself, love yourself and have a good relationship with yourself first, before you can engage and nurture great relationships with others.
But no I went slightly off track.
It may have to do with the fact that I just delivered my speech at the Women On Boards Conference on "Finding Your Turangawaewae". Heoi ano it is what it is.
I would love to hear your comments.
Nga mihi o te wa e hoa. He rangi paki kei waho, no reira he rangi ataahua, ahakoa te makariri. He pai rawa atu ki te koreroreo ano i runga i tenei hotaka – Maui mu. Tau ke!
Tenei e mihi kau ana ki nga kaiwhakarongo. Ko te tumanako kei te ora ake tonu koutou! Ko te kaupapa matua, ko te mana wahine me nga wahine toa. Ko te korero mo tenei marama, Paengawhawha, na Te Puea Herangi. Ki au nei, he tika tana korero mo tatou - ahakoa ko wai, ahakoa no whea?
Anei tana korero ~
“Mehemea ka moemoea ahau ko ahau anake. Mehemea ka moemoea tatou, ka taea tataou.”
What this korero means for me within the context of leadership is this - Great leaders do not lead by themselves but with others making it possible to achieve great things.
You only have to look at Te Puea’s many achievements to understand this whakatauki. One such achievement is the establishment of Turangawaewae marae in Ngaruawahia.
Actually last week I returned home to...
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